Your Destiny is Too Important

This song by Kevin Levar is so powerful! It encourages my soul every time I hear it. Prayerfully it will do the same for you. Remember, your destiny is too important to give up for anything or anyone. Be encouraged and blessed, saints of God!

This is not a time to get distracted
This is not a time to go off course
This is not a time to lose your focus
Got a work to do for the Lord, and you can’t afford to lose your way You’ve come too far from where you started
So please don’t let the time you’ve sown be wasted
On things that you’ll later regret
Wishing you never had
Once you realize it wasn’t worth it.
Your destiny
It’s too important to give up for anything
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
Your destiny
Said it’s too important to give up for anything … anything ahh … anything Yeahhh
Said it ain’t worth that skirt,
Said it ain’t worth that tie … no it ain’t … no it
Said it ain’t worth that girl
And it ain’t worth that guy … naw
Your destiny, your destiny, your destiny is too important to give up
For anything, anything yeah … mmmmm
Waiting on the other side of temptation
Waiting on the other side of this test
Is everything you ever dreamed, everything you prayed for
Everything He promised you that you’d get
So hold on, and don’t let go … Hold on, you’re just that close
Hold on and never give up, Hold on …
Hold on … Hold on … Yeah … Hold on … and don’t let go
Cause you just that close … Hold on, and never give up
Hold on, say Hold on … you say:
It’s only a matter of time
Cause I can see the finish line
My victory is days away
So imma get ready
It’s been a long time coming but I know it’s coming for sure
I got a promise from the Lord …
Waiting on the other side of temptation
Waiting on the other side of this test
Is everything you’ve ever dreamed of
Everything you prayed for
Everything HE promised you …


Operation Relinquishing Control Success

Operation Relinquishing Control This Holiday Season wasn’t as difficult as I thought it would be. I didn’t have a list of gift ideas to hand out to friends and family, and I didn’t spend as much time as usual even thinking about what I’d like to have. Surprisingly, I haven’t even been taking advantage of all the holiday sales like I have done in the past. So this has been a pretty care-free and relaxing holiday.

I can admit that my former habit of stressing over getting the perfect gift can be just that–stressful, especially if things don’t go as expected. So letting go for a change and allowing my loved ones to be a blessing in their own way has lightened the load. And light is how God intends for our load to be. This reminds me of one of the benefits of being His child–the ability to cast all of my cares on Him.

“Casting the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully.” (1 Peter 5:7 AMP)

For me, it is humbling to know that such a mighty and great God cares about the things that concern me because He cares about me. He doesn’t want you or I to be burdened down with senseless worries since worrying does nothing to solve the problem anyway. In light of Christ, my problems, unfulfilled requests, and desire for material things just aren’t that important. Truth is, He is the answer to every problem that could ever exist, and He is the fulfillment of every desire anyone could ever have, so as long as He’s in control of my life all I need to do is rest in His goodness and allow Him to bless me as He sees fit. I am content in knowing that because I have Christ in my life I already have the BEST gift anyone could ever have–the gift that keeps on giving.

Be blessed with God’s best, everyone, and Merry Day After Christmas!

Faith for Daily Living

Yesterday I shared a post about the need for confession in a believer’s life, and it was met with some resistance. One of the concerns brought to my attention that I would like to address here is the idea that confessing God’s Word is a way to try and manipulate Him to give us what we want and that having a desire for more and better is not what belief in God is all about. While I do agree that we do sometimes put more emphasis on self than on the needs of others, I do not believe that our personal successes and victories or our desire for them are necessarily a hindrance to the work of Christ. I actually believe that God places a desire for more and better on the inside of us so that we can be more of an asset to His Kingdom.

So here’s a question I would like to pose to my fellow bloggers and social media friends…If we didn‚Äôt have a desire to want more or better, what would we need faith for in our daily lives? The Bible says that “the just shall live by faith (Habakkuk 2:4b, Romans 1: 17b, Galatians 3:11b, and Hebrews 10:38a). I don’t know about you but every day that I wake up I am living, so beyond believing God for salvation, what should we be believing God for on a daily basis? I’d love to hear your thoughts. ūüôā

Thy Will Be Done

In exactly 26 days I wiLaunch Party Flyerll be launching my first book “Wait on God: What Every Single Woman Should Know to Receive God’s Best!” and I¬†couldn’t be more excited or more nervous. I’m excited about this new venture and all of the opportunities that are already opening up for me, but I am nervous because this is a new venture and there will be opportunities opening up for me. I know it may sound confusing, but I can sum it up in a nutshell with this…fear of the unknown. I have never published a book before, so with this new endeavor comes new challenges. ¬†I don’t know what those challenges will be, so it’s kind of difficult to prepare for something you don’t know is coming your way.

Part of the reason I waited so long to finish writing this book and begin the publishing process was because I knew once I put it out there for the world to see, it would either be accepted or rejected, and more accurately put–accepted and rejected. My personal work would be put on public display and hence subject to criticism. I now realize that was part of the devil’s ploy to thwart my progress and get me to forfeit my blessing and forfeit being a blessing to others who would read it and actually learn something from it. I also realize that not everyone will support, congratulate, or even acknowledge my accomplishment, even the people I may expect would do these things, but it’s okay. As long as God supports, congratulates, and acknowledges it I’m good. It is His job to touch the hearts of people concerning my book, not mine. So that takes away some of the pressure. Someone told me that I wouldn’t get rich off of this project, and honestly that is not the reason why I wrote it. I wrote it because I experienced it and want to be a blessing to someone else. I believe that I am experiencing God’s best in my marriage, and it would be selfish of me not to share God’s goodness and His divine plan with others. But if God wants to use this book to make me rich, I’m not opposed to that idea either. But instead of trying to manufacture success on my own, I will trust God to do as He pleases with it. I know that if He touches it it has to prosper because when Jesus says yes nobody can say no.

“What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us,who can be against us?” Romans 8:31

Get Busy With Purpose

office_workerI was in the mall today when I ran into a classmate from high school who was working in one of the retail stores. We talked for a few minutes to catch up and then we said goodbye. About an hour later, I pulled up to the gas station and saw her again, but this time she was dressed in a restaurant uniform.

“You’re working two jobs, girl?” I asked out of my car window.

“I actually work three jobs” she said, with a giggle.

“Why are you working so much?” I knew she was single with no children or family to support so I couldn’t understand the need to work so hard. “I’m not trying to give you a hard time or anything, but that’s got to be tiresome.”

“I am tired she said, and my sister fusses at me all the time about working so hard, but ever since my mom died I needed something to keep my mind busy” she admitted.

I was right. It wasn’t about the money. She just needed a distraction from the pain and emptiness she was feeling inside. Knowing that what she actually needed was the healing that only a true relationship with Christ can bring, I asked her what church she attended. As I suspected, she wasn’t regularly attending church because of all her jobs. No wonder she felt empty. Without a continual feeding of the Word of God and time spent in His presence, emptiness will occur in any of us. And what do empty people do? Try to find something, anything to fill their void. Some people use relationships, some people use shopping, some people use illegal substances, and some people use jobs like this young lady. But why not use God.

No, I don’t mean use God in a negative sense, but I mean engaging in the activities that He’s provided for us that give our lives purpose and meaning, like church and ministry service. While I do agree that we need to have a level of productive activity in our lives to keep us from being idle and yes, to keep our minds from dwelling on negative things, I do believe that it should be something purposeful. Instead of giving all of your valuable time and energy to a job that has no eternal reward attached to it, why not invest that time into something that does affect you (and those around you whose lives you were sent here to touch) now and for eternity? Only what you do for Christ shall last. I don’t care how good you are at your natural job, God has an even greater plan for your life beyond what you could think or imagine. And many times that plan is discovered during your service in kingdom through the local church. Most of the things I am gifted at doing were discovered and/or cultivated as a result of working in my church: singing, writing, speaking, teaching, working with children, and even taking pictures. Had I not been connected to my ministry I’m not sure that I would have had the opportunity to grow in so many areas.

Some non-church goers might argue that church attendance and membership is not necessary. I disagree, but don’t take my word for it. God’s word says¬†¬†“Not forsaking or neglecting to assemble together [as believers], as is the habit of some people, but admonishing (warning, urging, and encouraging) one another, and all the more faithfully as you see the day approaching” (Hebrews 10:25 AMP). A benefit to believers is the encouragement we provide to one another–something my classmate could sure use to help her through this difficult time in her life. Another benefit is in discovering God’s purpose for our lives. You could be doing some real good in your daily life, but that doesn’t mean that it is what God preordained and called you to do. A good thing doesn’t equal a God thing. Think about the sons of Sceva in Acts 19:14. They took it upon themselves to do what they saw the apostle Paul doing–casting out evil spirits. Was it a good thing to do? Sure. Paul did it. But was it God’s thing for them to do? Apparently not because at their promptings for the evil spirits to come out of a man, those spirits said “Jesus I know, and Paul I know; but who are ye?” (Acts 19:15 KJV) Then they leaped on them, overcame them, and beat them naked. I’d say knowing your specific purpose is paramount.

One purpose that we all share is to win souls for Christ. Doesn’t it makes sense that more souls can be reached through the local church body than through one person working at it alone? The resources of each member pooled together can go much further and have a greater impact on the kingdom of God. You are needed to fulfill God’s will in the earth both as an individual and as a supportive contributor to the local church. So don’t just get busy. Get busy with purpose by being busy about your Father’s business.


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Ferguson + NYC = End Times Foretold

ferguson-killing-michael-brown476-760x506Not knowing what to say, I haven’t wanted to respond to the recent injustices happening in our country–until now. Most of the arguments surrounding events in Ferguson and New York have been steeped in racial prejudice. And while race does seem to play a huge role, it is not the only factor to consider. I am upset about the unwarranted deaths of unarmed black Americans too, and I wish that I could say that it surprises me, but it doesn’t.

Jesus warned us about this.

Nation will go to war against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in many parts of the world. 8 But all this is only the first of the birth pains, with more to come.

9¬†‚ÄúThen you will be arrested, persecuted, and killed. You will be hated all over the world because you are my followers.[a] 10¬†And many will turn away from me and betray and hate each other. 11¬†And many false prophets will appear and will deceive many people. 12¬†Sin will be rampant everywhere, and the love of many will grow cold. 13¬†But the one who endures to the end will be saved. 14¬†And the Good News about the Kingdom will be preached throughout the whole world, so that all nations[b] will hear it; and then the end will come” (Matthew 24:7-15 NLT).

All of the social unrest that exists in our nation and in the world was foretold over 2000 years ago. We are living in the last and evil days. We can see it in the unpredictable weather, in the rebellious actions of children, and yes in the senseless deaths of innocent people. And our enemy, Satan, is enjoying all of it because he is the accuser of the brethren. He is the author of confusion. He is the one who comes to kill, steal, and destroy. ¬†Jesus told us this also so that we wouldn’t be ignorant of his plans.

Am I saying that we should have a we-knew-this-would-happen-so-suck-it-up-and-move-on attitude? ABSOLUTELY NOT! What I want to express is that we should heed Jesus’ warnings to watch and pay attention to what is going on around us. Now more than ever, people who don’t have a personal relationship with Christ should be running to Him and those who do name the name of Christ should be drawing closer to Him and bringing others along with them. Deepening our relationship with Him will give us the confidence to trust Him for our safety and the well-being of our beloved children. If we really know Him, we’ll know that He has our backs and keeps us covered at all times. There is no defense like His defense–not in a court of law, not in guns and violence, and not in a political system. If we really know Him we don’t have to worry or live in fear about our families and communities. It’s when we don’t know Him through salvation that our fate lies in the hands of Satan–and that should come as no surprise either. It seems that what black America and the entire world for that matter should be doing instead of lifting their hands to say “don’t shoot” is lifting their hands toward God in worship.

I’m just sayin’.

4 Ways to Find Balance in an Unbalanced World


1 Peter 5:8 (AMP) says “be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times, for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour.”

I often wonder how so many believers’ lives end up in so much turmoil. Yeah, I know that some suffering comes as a result of living a righteous lifestyle, but what about the self-inflicted suffering? ¬†The kind that comes as a result of the poor decisions that are made. The kind that makes believers look weak and defeated. ¬†Weakness and defeat are definitely not part of a believer’s inheritance. ¬†In fact, Jesus’s death, burial, and resurrection has secured the victory and strength for us. So why do we sometimes lose sight of that fact? Why do we sometimes live our lives reacting to situations instead of controlling them? ¬†I believe that a part of the problem is that our lives in many cases are not in proper spiritual balance. What do I mean? Webster defines balance as¬†mental steadiness or emotional stability; habit of calm behavior and¬†judgment; and the ability to move or to remain in a position without losing control or falling. So how do we attain to this place of steadiness, stability, calmness in our behavior and judgment, and remaining in our spiritual position without losing control so that we can experience the victory in every situation? ¬†The answer lies in having a well-balanced life that is attained by prioritizing your life. ¬†The first priority should be God.

Our make up is as follows…spirit, soul, and body–in that order. That is the order of importance and the order to which attention should be given. Unfortunately, in many cases the order is switched to body first and spirit last. ¬†Hence, an imbalanced out-of-control life. You’ve heard of people getting involved in things they shouldn’t because of a void they are trying to fill. They try to compensate with things and people who are incapable of making up for what is lacking spiritually, a spirit that is sensitive to the voice of God. Giving your spirit man priority means giving God priority since that is where His Spirit dwells inside you. It also means that your spirit will be the strongest influence on your decisions, which means that you will be less inclined to fall prey to the devil. Temptations are sure to come in our lives, but God promised that we would not be tempted above what we can stand with the aid of the Spirit and the escape that he provides (1 Corinthians 10:13). Thankfully, there are things we can do to head off many temptations before they come our way. Those things are summed up in these words–being well balanced. Here’s what we can do according to scripture to attain proper balance in our lives.

1. Exercise self control (temperance). Temperance is a fruit of the spirit that means self-control. Being able to control one’s self can be a challenging task, especially when we haven’t spent adequate time in the Word of God, but it is so necessary to living a spiritually balanced life. So many Christians live carnal lives rather than spiritual lives, meaning that they are controlled by the flesh and its dictates. If the flesh wants to indulge in an activity that is clearly warned against in God’s Word, those who are carnal give in to it. It’s like giving a spoiled child everything he or she wants just because he cries for it. All that is teaching the child is that he is supposed to have everything he wants when he wants it. The only way to correct that unruly behavior is to apply some serious discipline. That’s what Paul spoke of in 1 Corinthians 9:27 (ESVUK).

“But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.”

I don’t care how loud the flesh cries out for sin, do not give in. Please realize that the flesh is a pure mess, and if given the opportunity it will drive you off a cliff and into sin. It will manipulate and control the real you (your spirit) if not put in check regularly. Exercising self-control and discipline will help to quiet the flesh. After a few consistent no’s to unholy requests, the flesh will learn that there are limits not to be crossed, and it will have no other choice but to obey.

2. Make decisions in a state of peace.¬†As much as is possible, avoid making important decisions in haste. It can be tempting to jump on the first thing that looks and feels good. But it would do us well to heed the Bible’s instructions to acknowledge God first in all our ways before making any decision, instead of only acknowledging our flesh and what it wants. In our haste we get ahead of God, and He doesn’t stop you because He’s given you free will. In fact, the first thing you must do is cast all of your cares on him for he cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7) His answers come packaged in peace. So what kinds of decisions fall into this category? What car to buy, what home to purchase, who to marry, and where to work are a just a few. These things require investment of your time and resources and in many ways can affect others around you. They should not be decided upon lightly or in the height of emotion, but rather with a sober, clear mind. True clarity comes from God, and we have to be sensitive enough through time spent with Him to discern His voice on these matters. With His approval our decisions can be made in peace.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

3. Be watchful and pay attention. ¬†Don’t just take everything at face value. Consider what is behind what you see. I am not suggesting that you live in a state of paranoia. I am urging you to be cautious of your surroundings. Many an unsuspecting person has been the victim of crime because they were not on guard or were too trusting of the wrong people. Be prayerful and judge everything, and I mean everything by what the Word says. If it is God sent, it should agree with God. If it is Satan sent, it definitely will not agree with God. To use an old cliche, everything that glitters isn’t gold. That crooked salesman’s intent all along was to pull the wool over your eyes long enough to get you to buy the fake stuff and pay authentic prices. He didn’t want you to ask any questions or examine it too closely because you would have picked up on his scheme. Satan is no different. He will say and do all of the right things just to deceive you. Don’t allow him the advantage. He won’t have the advantage if you are aware of and watch for his devices (2 Corinthians 2:11).

4. Live purposefully. ¬†Be intentional and plan for spiritual success every day. ¬†Lack of strategy leaves you vulnerable to the enemy’s strategies. ¬†Trust me, he has one against you. One good strategy is to command your morning as is spoken of in Job 38:12 (KJV).

“Hast thou commanded the morning since thy days; and caused the dayspring to know his place…”

In this passage, Job may have been referring to his inability to control the sun’s rising, but I think it is useful in another way. Since believers have creative power in their tongues just like God our Father, we should use that power constructively to set our days in order. What I mean by that is, each morning is an opportunity to speak good things over yourself–things that you desire to happen in the course of your day. Also, catering to your spiritual life first thing in the morning sets your day up for success. I submit to you that breakfast is not the most important meal of the day, God’s Word is; for “man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God” (Matthew 4:4). Neglecting to do this is like living haphazardly. ¬†In other words, you leave your day to chance and subject yourself to be on the defensive to the enemy’s attacks–having to react to what he sends your way. Living purposefully puts you in a position to attack and thwart his plans before they are carried out against you.


I’m not judgin’. I’m just sayin’.

Are there any other ways you find spiritual balance in your life?

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